Before you have children, you have ideas about how motherhood should go. How you will handle situations. What you will or will not do as a parent. How your child should or should not act. You're certain that you've worked through each possible circumstance to get the outcome you desire.
Reality: As you know, I take Samuel into the doctor if he has so much as a sniffle. LET'S BE HONEST - I take him into the doctor if he's even THINKING about having a sniffle. Having a micropreemie with chronic lung disease has rocked my world...and I tend to err on the side of caution.
Reality: I have albums and albums and albums of Samuel's pictures on Facebook. Why? Because everyone wants to see pictures of my extra-superduper-cute kid! Not really. (Although, I must say, he IS pretty cute.) It's my way of showing the world how their prayers have been answered. It's me shouting, "Look at how GREAT our God is!!! Look at what a miracle Samuel's life is!!!"
Reality: This momma's life really DOES revolve around her baby. We've spent countless hours sitting at home with a baby hooked up to oxygen and monitors. We gave up all adult conversation in order to keep our son away from other people's germs. We tip-toed around the house trying to stay quiet for a little one who seriously never seemed to sleep (as mentioned here.) We are tethered to the house so we can make it back for mealtimes because of Samuel's feeding issues.
It took me a while to realize that being one of THOSE moms didn't mean that I was doing motherhood 'wrong.' It means that I have had the opportunity to learn flexibility a bit earlier than most mothers do. For me, it means putting someone else before myself in nearly every instance. It means sharing and celebrating the milestones (that we've worked so hard for) with others. When I think of it that way, it's pretty special to be one of THOSE moms.